Earlier this week, my sister and I were talking about her job. Her department was looking to hire and she was on the hiring committee handling interviews. One thing during the process bothered her – her boss’ response to the male candidate vs the female candidate. Now to be fair, my sister thinks the world of her boss and always has nothing but great things to say about him. However, she pointed out to him what appeared to be his favoritism of the male candidate over the female candidate because he felt she was too “aggressive.” While “aggressiveness” is generally appreciated, even praised in men, it’s almost always frowned upon in women. What gives?!
I hate to hear these types of things because it makes some women, mainly younger women entering the workforce, feel like being ambitious and going after what they want makes them a bitch. Well ladies, I’m here to tell you – being ambitious doesn’t make you a bitch. As the old saying goes, closed mouths don’t get fed. One trend that gives me hope, however, is the high number of women starting their own businesses – whether it be women starting businesses right out of school, or those of us who did the corporate thing, but decided it was time to strike out on our on. I love to see women dreaming big and working hard to make their dreams happen. It inspires me. It gives me life. It makes me feel like I can go out and take over the world. The world needs as many ambitious women as it can get, starting businesses, tackling societal problems and working hard to make the world a better place. In my opinion, the only thing that makes a woman a bitch is mistreating and stepping on others to get where she wants to be in life. And for the record, I don’t like that type of behavior out of anyone – male or female. As long as you’re not stepping on others to get where you’re going, I say be as ambitious as you want and do the damn thing, haters be damned. It’s better to be thought a bitch and pursue your dreams than to be well liked and play it safe.
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