“Let your haters be your motivators.” I’ve always hated this quote. Why? Because, honestly, I don’t feel haters deserve any attention, let alone a second of your thoughts. Back in the “old days” (circa 2005), you could avoid haters more easily. Nowadays, with social media giving everyone and their mama a platform, haters are tossing opinions around like confetti. So, since it seems haters are here to stay, here are five tips on the best way to handle them:
1. Don’t Pay Them No Mind:
Now, to be clear, not all criticism is hating. Some folks seem to think the slightest critique is somebody hating. It’s not. There’s a difference between destructive criticism (aka hating) and constructive criticism. Constructive criticism, if implemented, makes you better. Destructive criticism, however, only looks to tear you down. That, you ignore, along with the hater giving it.
2. Remember, Haters Aren’t Happy And They Don’t Want You To Be Either:
Think about it – have you ever seen a happy hater? Me either. You know the old saying – misery loves company. Haters don’t like their lives and they’ll be damn if they let you enjoy yours. But don’t fall for the old okey doke – leave those haters on Misery Island while you ride off into the sunset and enjoy your life.
3. Hating Is A Spectator Sport:
If you’re a productive person who actually gets things done, you don’t have the time or the energy to sit around, eye-spying what everyone else is doing. Haters have time because, instead of being in the game, they’re playa hatin’ from the sidelines. And the last time I checked, winners don’t normally ride the pine.
(Like Beyoncé said, twill on them haters)
4. Negativity Breeds Negativity:
The main reason why ignoring haters is best is because negativity only breeds negativity. Normally, I make it a practice NEVER to read the comment sections on social media, but from time to time, I fall down the rabbit hole and man-o-man do I always regret it. There’s always a bunch of haters with hateful comments and I can almost immediately feel my mood start to turn negative. Engaging haters, on any level, only leads to negativity so avoid it.
5. Keep Everything In Perspective:
At the end of the day, opinions are like bum holes – everyone has one and most of them stink. This is especially true for haters. Everyone has an opinion and a platform from which to share it, but that doesn’t mean those opinions have an ounce of value.
How do you handle haters?