One of the downsides of being a strong woman: not always knowing when to let go. Sometimes we think we can save everyone and everything, if we just have enough time to fix it. Unfortunately, that’s not the case. Letting go of what doesn’t serve you isn’t a luxury, it’s necessary. Here’s why:
It keeps you weighed down.
Holding on to people and situations, that no longer serve you, gets pretty heavy; it keeps you feeling stuck and weighed down. I’m sure we’ve all been guilty of holding on to jobs, friendships, etc. long past their expiration date because we didn’t want to be the bad guy or be labeled a quitter. I know I have. But when I finally let go, I felt so much lighter – emotionally, mentally and physically.
It makes you unhappy.
I still remember my former law firm job, where I spent 11 years. It was probably 10 years and six months too long. Even though I was unhappy there, I stayed because I was always told by others that I shouldn’t quit a job until I had another job, in hand. And while that’s generally good advice and I wouldn’t advise anyone to make risky decisions, holding on to that job was killing me. I was always crying, I hated waking up in the morning because I had to go to work and that misery clung to me, everywhere I went, like a wet blanket.
The job provided a paycheck, but it wasn’t serving me. Once I finally decided to take the leap and let it go, things began to shift in my life, in a positive way. The change wasn’t overnight, but looking back, it was the right choice.
You can’t receive better until you let go.
One of the main reasons, I believe, we hold onto things that no longer serve us is because we’re afraid nothing better will come along; it reminds me of the saying “A bird in the hand is better than two in the bush.” We feel if we let go of what we have, we won’t have anything. But what if we don’t have better because we’re still holding on to things that no longer serve us? We have to be willing to take a chance, let go and make room for bigger, better things. Anytime I’ve let go of what no longer served me, something better always came along. Maybe not immediately, but it did happen eventually.
You can’t grow.
They say you become like the five people you spend the most time with. For me, that was true. A few years ago, I used to have a friend I hung out with a lot. When he would call, he never really had anything to talk about. One thing that he would say that began to rub me the wrong way was, “I’m not doing nothing.” He said it EVERY. TIME. WE. TALKED. EVERY. TIME. I began to look at myself and saw I was doing the same thing – nothing. And I knew that wasn’t ok. If I wanted to grow, I had to change that. Needless to say, we’re no longer close, but I’ve grown so much. Had I held on to that friendship I’m pretty sure DSR Apparel wouldn’t even exist.
Now I’m not telling you to kick everybody and everything to the curb, but I do suggest you take a long look at your relationships and circumstances. If they can level up to where you’re heading, great! If not, don’t be afraid to let go of what no longer serves you.
What are you holding on to that no longer serves you? Why?